Libido and desire can naturally drop in relationships that have past the initial sexual excitement phase and many other reasons including:
boredom, life and work stresses. Prostrate issues for men and female vaginal dryness due to menopause can lead to emotional fall out including lethargy, self esteem issues and anxiety. The good news is that igniting your desire and sexual fire can be done at any age and you can take your sex life from lack lustre to sensational in a short time. Here are some easy ways to light your sexual spark, and get your sexual juices flowing.
1 Sexy lingerie and accessories
Investing in some wow factor sexy lingerie and props is a sure fire way of setting the mood. Picking the right sensual lingerie and playful accessories not only gives you pleasurable sensory sensations but also stimulates the right side of the brain where imagination and fantasies come from. Lingerie and soft faux fur feels great on the skin, initiating the sensory receptors in the body, releasing sex hormones estrogen and progesterone.
Allowing your imagination to run wild is a great way to spice up your usual routines. Creating a character, engaging in roleplay’s, mixing things up like having sex outdoors, sex in different rooms, different positions and indulging in each others fantasies. Remember to discuss the fantasties beforehand so they are mutually agreed upon.
Allowing enough time for foreplay ensures you are sufficiently stimulated and elongates the time for pleasure in your schedule. It’s great to start with a sensual massage which allows you to go into a state of deep relaxation and to respond to another person’s touch. Gentle stroking of the body and genitals create the perfect introduction to allow both partners to become turned on.
4. Tantric Breathwork
Tantric Yoga is a an ancient spiritual practice which means to weave and expand. When most of us think of Tantric Sex we think of sexual positions which are actually the Kamasutra. Tantra Yoga is a powerful combination of asana, mantra, mudra, and bandha (energy lock) and chakra (energy center). Tantric Breath Work techniques awaken the Kundalini channel. Kundalini is. Tantric Yoga allows you to experience deeper intimacy and create a mind/body connection which can lead to super powerful orgasms.
Stores like Honey Birdette offer a great range of lingerie and sexy play accessories including whips, cuffs and vibrators. Introducing a vibrator to the mix can be a great addition to your sex accessories. Vibrators come in a variety of shapes, sizes and textures, and have a range of different speeds. the use of a vibrator stimulates your feeling, auditory and visual senses.
6. Tantric Postures
Tantric Yoga like Yab Yum position, where a woman sits on her partners thighs allowing sexual intimacy and close physical proximity. Alternatively you can sit in lotus position with knees touching. Both positions allow mind/body connection and deeper relaxation to occur. Including a variety of Tantric Breathing techniques including, Bliss Breath, Circular Breath and Fire Breath. Tuning into each other with eye gazing and tantric breath will allow a deep sense of connection before you engage in sexual practices.
7. Essential Oils and Aromatherapy
Using essential oils in oil burners and diffuser, incense and candles are a great way to set the mood. Choose the oil based on what you would like to create, for example oils to increase sex drive include: Clary sage, Lavender, Sandalwood and Ylang Ylang. Light your your burner ahead of your session to allow the room to become infused with the heady scents. Sensual Massage Oils which are also great for the skin include: Almond Oil, Coconut Oil, Jojoba Oil, Olive Oil, Cocoa Butter and Shea Butter.
Aphrodisiacs increase the libido and taste great. Planet Earth has lovingly provided us with many natural aphrodisiacs including: Maca, Chocolate, Red Wine, Vanilla, Honey, Strawberries, Cherries. Whip up a feast of your favourite foods to nibble on and serve on platters. Serve beverages in elegant champagne glasses and take your time. Allowing the food or drink to sit in the mouth before swallowing is important, so your salivory glands are activated. Whip up your own Aphrodisiac non alcoholic and or alcohol cocktail.
For more information contact Tantric Expert and Sensual Empowerment Coach Maree. She offers a range of Sensual Dance and Embodiment Classes including: Sensual Tantric Body Workout, Awakening Feminine Erotic Archetypes, Burlesque Dance, Sacral Power Yoga Flow and Embodiment Private Sessions – dance4fitness.com.au